Six of the Best is Best
By Rollerblade on October 27, 2009
Do you find, anymore, that people understand the distinction between a caning and a flogging? I detest leather whips. They have an ugly appearance and make a barbaric racket. What I want is something sleek and tidy, something civilized and yet impressive—the cane. But it seems to have become just one more implement in a whole arsenal of weapons used to attack the human body. I suppose I am—Old-Fashioned
Dear Old-Fashioned: Would you like to come over to my house tonight?
I can’t speak for the majority of British players, but I do know that in America, the cane is widely feared and perhaps even stigmatized. The leather whips that you think are barbaric are seen as “civilized and yet impressive.” Relatively few people will agree to be caned. It’s seen as one of the most painful things you can endure, in between a cat-o’-nine-tails and a bullwhip. Even tops who use canes find that they have to warm up the bottom with lesser equipment before they can dish out six of the best.
(Do y’all really say that, or is it just a convention of 1960s American porn about decadent British gentlemen?)
The first time I picked up a cane, I knew I had found my heart’s desire. There are in fact a wide range of sensations that can be created with a cane. But it also provides a merry-hell-come-to-daddy pain that I prize because it comes in two parts. As the nerve is compressed, it signals pain, and as it expands, there is a second chord of agony. That swish is music to my ears.
I do understand that not everyone can simply bend over and take stripes from the awesome and mind-altering, flexible beauty. Those who can not only endure it but relish it are a rare breed. And I want all of their phone numbers. So I salute you, O.F., and wish that Americans weren’t such a big bunch of sissy pants.
Patrick Califia is a therapist in private practice in Northern California. His practice includes internet consultations as well as face-to-face psychotherapy. He is a prolific author who has published widely about BDSM and sexual politics. Patrick’s books include Macho Sluts, Sensuous Magic, and Public Sex: The Politics of Radical Sex.
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