How to be a Domme

By on May 25, 2011

The Practical Guide to Becoming a Professional Dominatrix – Written by Canadian domina Evangeline Dubois, this comprehensive guide does exactly what it says on the tin. Also known professionally as Mistress D, she lays bare all possible scenarios for the newbie or those thinking of entering the trade.

This 92 page manual is a no holds barred account of the practicalities and pitfalls a pro-domme faces in her day to day adventures. Most “how to” books for the dominant female tend to focus on playtime with a romantic partner but this is strictly business.

 

How To Be A Domme is broken down into five parts which is just as well as there is a lot of content to sink your teeth into. It starts out aptly titled Learning the Ropes, where she covers the ABC of BDSM. She offers practical advice on how to be safe and when to take precautions. The tone of her writing here comes across as sincere with an underlying caveat not to be naïve and to trust your instincts if you feel threatened.

Mistress D then moves on to the nitty gritty of Setting Up Shop, giving an introduction to the fundamentals of the business. No stone is left unturned and she covers everything from choosing your new name to the best types of strap-ons to use with which lubes.

She stresses the fact that what she’s written is just for guidelines. You’re encouraged to develop your own persona and discover your own boundaries and limitations. Additionally, the section on protocols makes good common sense on how to prepare yourself for sessions.

The further you delve through the material, the more in-depth the topics become, particularly once you start roping the clients in. The sections on how to set the scene and the breakdown of a one hour session are useful and if you want to venture into collaring slaves, there are sample contracts to follow.

 

Written to inspire and empower, it’s refreshing that she doesn’t preach or try to “domme” you into doing things her way. She speaks from personal experience and it was obvious to me that she felt the need to extend her years of “wisdomme” to those starting out. Indeed, she wants you to learn from her mistakes, so you can fast track yourself into the business.

The book is not printed on paper – it’s a PDF. The great thing about the PDF format is that you can access it instantly and refer to it again and again. You can keep it on your laptop or iPad. No more wondering where you put that book – and it’s more discreet, too!

This is a thorough account of every imaginable aspect of a pro-domme’s vocation, but at this price I would have hoped for a more colourful or arty presentation. However plain and textbook-like the presentation is, the content is sensible and concise – there’s probably little else out there offering what this does.

What stuck me the most was her genuinely honest approach throughout and at times I could detect an undertone of dark humour thrown in for good measure. Let’s face it; if you’re going to become a Domme, a little humour will go a long way.

How to be a Domme costs $25 Canadian. You can pay in any currency, using most major credit cards, via PayPal or AlertPay. You do not have to have a PayPal account.

See Evangeline Dubois introducing her book here –
http://www.youtube.com/user/MDadmin2010

Buy How to be a Domme here – www.howtobeadomme.com

By Lady Bellatrix
Lady Bellatrix is one of London’s top dominatrixes and her website is here – www.ladybellatrix.com

1 Comment

alessandro

June 12, 2011 @ 16:17

Good!

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